The Painful Truth

Feb 21, 2012 by

The Painful Truth

We’ve all experienced some form of emotional pain in our lives at some stage or another, and as I was considering what to write about on this subject I came across this lovely quote. ‘Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them. Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it’(Rabindranath Tagore)

Wow, what a brave request! How many of us have this kind of courage? Shit happens and what do we do? We ask to be protected, we cry out to all that will listen, and the accepted response is ‘Oh we didn’t want that to happen’, and we run, and we hide, and we resist, we cannot face it, we deny it, try to forget it’s happened, but the pain is still there, we can hear it knocking on our hearts door, crying ‘let me in, let me in’, and we put our hands over our ears to shut out the racket, and it doesn’t work, and the pain is unbearable, and still we resist, some of us turn to alcohol, some to drugs, some of us get depressed, become suicidal, some of us fall into ill health, and so on and on and on, and the pain is still there….. until…. the day….. you answer the door…. until the day… you turn around and face the pain… and say ‘Ok… you got me….yep it’s pretty awful alright…. But hey it happened… and this is where I am with this right now… what do I need to learn from this? What can I do about this? Nothing? Then can I accept firstly that it happened, and know that while perhaps I hadn’t a conscious choice in this happening… I do know that I have a conscious choice in how I am going to continue reacting to this thing’

Now ….you’re going within yourself, and deep inside this deep well, you realize that you have the strength, the courage within you, oh yes it’s at the bottom, you didn’t know it was there did you? But it was hiding down there all along just waiting for you to find it, to reach down and pull it up… and here it is… and it is more than enough to help you cope, it is more than enough to get you through this….now you’re not concerned about stilling out that pain…..you know now that you are not ‘the pain’, you are separate from it, and you can keep it as a walking companion for the rest of your life, or you can get past this… and grow from the experience, without bitterness or resentment, now you know that you will handle anything that comes along in the future. You see yourself as a kind of observer, no longer a victim, no longer crying out, ‘why me?’ You have now become a warrior….. you’re so very, very brave, you now only ask for your heart to conquer the pain…. You run away no more! You are victorious! Feels good doesn’t it? Oh yes!

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  1. Kevin Robison

    Thanks for this, Paula. So beautifully said and so perfectly true!