Live to give

Jun 8, 2011 by

Live to give

‘Each man takes care that his neighbour shall not cheat him. But a day comes when he begins to care that he does not cheat his neighbour. Then all goes well’ –Ralph Waldo Emerson (quote)

Gosh, do we all do that? Maybe not all of us, or maybe all of us at some stage of our lives have been like that? Think about it for a minute. Is it just all about ourselves, making sure that we are okay? Making sure that someone doesn’t get one over on us? And once we are alright or our family is alright, then that’s all that matters?

And if we are like that, can that day come for us when we turn things around to the point that we become really aware of others and say hand on heart, ‘Hey I’m going to make sure that I act with integrity in all my dealings with my fellow men, so yes while I’m going to look after myself and those closest to me, I’m also going to be on the lookout for my ‘neighbour’ too?

eurosI was out with some friends the other evening, I handed the bartender a five euro note to pay for my 7up, he proceeded to hand me back the wrong change in error believing that I had given him a twenty euro note. I pointed out the mistake and handed back the money. It would upset me deeply to cheat anyone. It would be like a black shadow following me, I would not be able to hold my head up, and I would lose some respect for myself if I did. ‘And what if it was the other way around?’ I hear you all ask. Well firstly I would not take it personally, I would consider it an error which needs rectification, and if it couldn’t be rectified, I would remind myself to be more aware the next time! (Probably with some added curses, but hey I’m human too!)

And if we live our lives with this integrity will all go well? I believe it will. When the day comes for each of us as individuals, that we are looking out for each other, when we are looking to see what we can give, not just what we can get. When we begin to live to give, to live to see what we can add to each interaction, not what we can gain from them, then we will see some positive changes happening in our world.


  1. Thank you Kayteem. Perhaps the next time your friends find themselves in that position, your words echo in their minds and they behave differently. Good for you.

  2. Kayteem

    I have done that and its happened several times. It keeps happening to my friends too, if they r with me I tell them to correct the errors but I’ve found them reluctant. But they do agree.. thank you for the article.