When You Remember, You’ll Want To Remember

Dec 16, 2010 by

When You Remember, You’ll Want To Remember

Each year we have what seems, more and more, like only snippets of time to share with the ones who mean so much to us. Therefore, I am asking you to consider giving them the gift that matters more than the “latest” or “greatest” newly designated “whatever” that some Madison Avenue think tank is pushing at you this year.

Give them….. you.

Give them your attention.
Give them your eye contact.
Give them your sincere smile.
Really care about the story they’re telling you, about the news they’re sharing with you.

Give them your willingness to listen.

I will tell you my mother is no longer alive. She is no longer able to be here to share with me.
She passed away several years ago.
And while, of course, there are a few gifts, trinkets really, which stand out in my mind, for we never had much money to spend on presents,
it isn’t these things that stand out in my mind when I look back on my childhood or my holidays through the years.

It is my memories.

It’s all the anticipation and excitement.
It’s seeing all the colors and lights.
It was all the giving and sharing of smiles and laughter.
It’s been the reminder of how human we all are.

You understand what I mean. I know you do.

Now, I recognize we can and will give one another so many “cool things”, so many “perfect objects”, but let us not forget in the end that none of these wonderful items will compare to the priceless opportunities we all have to create meaningful memories with each other. Because long after the season is gone and it has become nothing but a “remember when” the movie of our memories will replay in the theatre of our mind, longingly pulling on our heartstrings. And, we will want to be glad we took those extra few moments to make that movie one we’ll enjoy watching in all our years to come.

Photo Credits:
Proof Sheet: Tracy Fish @Flickr
Little Theater: Wally Gobetz @Flickr

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  1. Yes, dear Eve, I believe that is exactly what they are saying to you……. job well done, sweet one…… : )

  2. Eve forcinel

    Movies of memories that play out in our minds forever. So true. Good or bad they are embedded and pop up to remind us of good times and bad and sad times. It is true, i think, that the good memories come more often to the fore and that is why little things mean so much. It is not the presents but the presense that make the most difference in young childrens lives. The greatest gift to me is when my children talk about holidays past and I know they are saying ” Thanks for the memories”